(This post is relevant because no one will shut the fuck up about selfies ever since Oxford Dictionaries chose it as the word of the year.)
I have a theory that any photo that one takes of oneself is motivated by the exact same innate human desire to have someone look at you.
(I mean, this is a really innate human need. Babies seek responses from being looked at.)
But what’s important about this is that I really believe it levels a playing field of how we judge people. This particular playing field is the one where we make fun of the girls who dress more or less “ghetto” and post trashy photos hyper-sexualizing themselves because they want attention. I’ve heard my comedian friends talk about these girls in really disappointed ways—talking about the way these girls seek attention like it’s some shameful thing.
These comedian friends are comfortable with various forms of self-representation. This includes photos of themselves that are posted in some sort of funny context, or in some way that is in-line with their comedy social media presence. And I’m on board with these comics’ mindsets in terms of my own self-representation. But I’m starting to stretch my mind enough to realize that this does NOT make us any better than the girls who are straight-up just trying to look sexy or pretty.
Because: yes, I am cynical and self-aware enough that I would be too ashamed to post a traditional selfie without some sort of joke or comedic concept behind it. But don’t you dare for a second think that the sort of attention I (or any fucking one—boy, girl, comic, non-comic) am really yearning for is in any tiny minute way different from the attention that any other selfie is hoping to gain. The photo of me enveloped in some childish-wino persona, and the photo of my male comedy-friend with some sort of hilarious drug paraphernalia, AND the photo of the young single mom in the mirror with her titties hanging out have the exact same root desire.
Comics: quit hiding behind your fucking irony. Your self-awareness does not make you holy.
[P.S. Yes, this post was fueled by a wino joke selfie I took & yes, I am a little drunk right now. Tomorrow I’m sure sober-wet-towel-ball-busting Farah will edit out the expletives and unnecessary harshnesses <3]
[P.P.S. nope, not gonna do it. Good job, ya drunk asshole. Live with your choices.]
“Research shows that there’s a direct relationship between how many selfies you share on social media and how close your friends feel to you.”
(Editor of The Oxford Handbook of Media Psychology)
The absolute best account of smoking pot that I have ever heard or seen.
EDIT: goddammit. start at 49:00.